Marieken's Musings

More about Thriving as a Spiritual Soul

Opening Focus to Create a Better World

I want to talk about the way we focus our attention, because how we focus has a great effect on our personal and collective access to wise ways forward. Narrow Focus Leads to Stress Individually, we tend to overfocus on the negative in three ways: indulging in it,...

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The Power of Compassion

I have been practicing radical self-compassion for many years now and together with presence it is the most important practice I embrace. It has the power to ignite a new heart-centered depth of being where we always feel a warm loving presence. I have also found it...

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Making Peace with Inner Suffering

There is no way you can contribute to peace if you cannot stand to be in conflict.   Many years ago I went back to school to study mediation and conflict management. I valued harmony and wanted to contribute to making our world a more peaceful place.  Luckily the...

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A Common Obstacle to Inner Freedom

I have noticed that spiritual practice often comes from a place of suffering.  People are looking for relief.  This is understandable.  Spiritual practice often does bring some relief.  However, if you want inner freedom, there is one obstacle I frequently notice...

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Reflections on 9 Days of Stillness

So I decided on a whim to create a home based silent solo meditation retreat during the first 10 days of January. I started in the afternoon of January 1 and finished midday January 10.  The intention was to reconnect more fully to myself after months of often being...

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The Trap of Spiritual Fundamentalism

Spiritual teachings are invitations for growth through compassionate inquiry. They are are meant to help you expand your vision and look at a situation with a fresh perspective through the wisdom of your heart so you can learn something new. Often this results in...

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Contemplation on a New Motivation

  From the perspective of our worldly existence and from the viewpoint of my conditioned mind, here is a “downside” to feeling deeply blissful and at peace most of the time.  The suggestions from the conditioned mind, to hurry and get going, seem to fall on deaf...

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How to be fundamentally well, no matter what!

Our perspective is (almost) everything! I know people who on the surface have a pretty blessed life with lots of opportunities, ability to travel, leisure time, hobbies, a good career, friends, and generally much freedom and self-direction.  From the outside looking...

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How are your New Years resolutions doing?

I have never been good with goals and resolutions and taking consistent action to meet them. How about you? If this is you too, here is an approach that has served me way way way better.  Try it on and see how it fits. I used to have this sense that I should do goal...

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A Christmas Presence for You!

In this post I want to wish you happy holidays and offer you a Christmas Presence. Until now I only taught and shared Presence in person and on conference calls in real time. However, I have learned from feedback that the transfer happens easily via a recording as...

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3 things I gained from simplifying

I am adding "living simply" as a new category to my blog because helping people find more Presence is my main purpose and, as I stated in my last blog post, simplifying is an awesome way to create a life that more naturally supports connection with Presence. Since my...

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Culture and Inner Growth: when is there a conflict

"The whole point is to get so entangled in debt that no normal human can possibly remember who owes whom what, and how much. Everything comes into this earth hungry and interdependent on all other things, animals, and people, so they can eat, be warmed and not be...

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Spiritual Fulfillment and the Body

"Spiritual fulfillment means the realization of your true self -- of who you are. You can't realize that just through your mind or anything that this world can bring to you. That realization is an inner experience in which you know that you are not only just enough...

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This is How I Heal Anxiety

I lived with crippling anxiety and mild background depression much of my life. I was a highly sensitive baby and after a hospital stay as a 3 year old was so traumatized that I became painfully shy and anxious.  It was paralyzing me for years, keeping me from stepping...

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Return to Innocence

Last week I celebrated my 51st birthday. One Happy Birthday message on Facebook stood out from all the rest reminding me to return to innocence: "Once upon a time... (a great way to say: "I don't even want to say how many years it's been.") your first breath arrived....

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Ode to Sensitivity

So often sensitive people feel ashamed of their sensitivity.  Somehow they learned that it is wrong to feel so much.  Instead of recognizing that the world is insane, they blame themselves for not being tough enough to handle the world with ease. I certainly...

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Gracefully Surfing Life’s Seasons and Tides

  Do you feel resistance as labor day weekend has come and gone?   Many people do.  Especially in Vermont and other places in the north east. Yikes! Summer is nearly ending.  We begin to notice the first leaves changing and the cooler nights.  Maybe we have...

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Changing the World in 3 Easy Steps

Today I felt particularly sensitive.  I was finding myself deeply in touch with a profound sadness and anger.  As I looked at this world and what we humans have done to it and each other and ourselves, more and more I feel that I no longer resonate with being here....

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10 Lessons Learned from Slowing Down

What I am learning from from SLOWING DOWWWN I have been in slowing down mode lately.  I highly recommend it! Just slow down, move more slowly, take frequent little presence breaks, and don’t fill up every little moment with busy-ness. Lessons I am learning: 1....

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How do I live Presence in everyday life?

  Question: Any pointers to help me live Presence in everyday life? Overall, I have become more aware and sensitive of myself and others. When sitting quietly I can feel Presence; I can feel my body and the energy surrounding and permeating it. As soon as I move...

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How to Be at Peace with a Troubled Childhood

  Question about a troubled childhood: I was brought up in a home that was dirty & unkept besides the fact that alcoholism, drug addiction, and abuse lived there. I lived ashamed and scared someone would find out and, sometimes people did. To this day the...

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Superb Sensitivity: How to get Grounded and Happy

Sensitivity gives us wonderful abilities. We feel more deeply, so we can potentially enjoy more of the deliciousness of being alive.  The problem is not with our sensitivity, but with not being grounded.  The key to enjoyable sensitivity is actually celebrating it,...

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How do I feel Presence when not with you, Marieken?

When we sense Presence, we tend to feel a deep ease with all as is and more importantly, we have access to healing and freely choosing preferred feeling states without resisting, denying, suppressing what is showing up in the moment. Experiencing Presence while...

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Thoughts on Addiction

This is the first in a Q&A series. If you have a question, please ask it here! Question: I am secretly addicted to smoking and I experience this as an obstacle to feeling competent and as social as I would like to be. How would you approach addictions?...

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A Secret about The Secret and The Law of Attraction

On Growth We are evolving beings. It is not that we need to “do” evolving. Evolving is our natural course. We have gotten into the habit of finding fault with ourselves where we are and so have made evolving a doing, a project, and we are looking for a finish line. We...

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What makes True Happiness?

Today I will start with an excerpt from a wonderful online article about a week spent with the Dalai Lama, called The Dalai Lama's Ski Trip "He raised his finger, leaning forward, focusing on her as if she were the only person in the world. “Hard question is not,...

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Compassion and Outrage in the Face of Injustice

Or why I am not just a spiritual being but also a human activist? Jamie Catto, a Facebook friend and teacher, musician, filmmaker, activist, blogger and all around human super hero 😉 likes to write provocative blogs and comments. Today one of his comments triggered a...

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Nice Spiritual States Come and Go

Nice spiritual states come and go. They come and go. They come and go. Recently as I was expressing incredible happiness, a friend shared that she was feeling defeated seeing people find “permanent” bliss and she just has not been able to find a way to make it last....

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Are you a Good Host to your Feelings?

Would you desire to experience more aliveness with a pervading sense of peace and self-love? Today’s writing is an invitation to embrace aliveness. In my experience, to feel truly alive, you need to make attending to your feelings a priority. Would you give...

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What Are You Trying Not to Feel?

Yesterday, as I was mentoring my friend, she was feeling “nothing.” She was having many thoughts that were pulling her away from feeling the yummie tingly “Presence feeling” she remembered from past sessions and was seeking to feel again. I asked her: “What are you...

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